The other day I was talking to my dad about my resignation and he made a remarkable statement, he said “Separation of any kind is a painful process for both the parties”. At that point of time I absorbed the remark, but I understood its true meaning today.
One of my best friends (arguably!! cause he still disputes it) has left today for another city to get employment there, not that it was a conscious choice made by him but then there was not much of option left for him. I had known him for the last seven years, he was my next door neighbor at my hostel. Both of us earned our first rupee together at Mumbai, had studied & graduated together, cooked some wonderful delicacies, shared a lot of ups and down in our life together. He was a rock solid support for me, I relied on him on all financial matters. He gave me advise when I was facing turbulence at my workplace. I realize now that how weak I am and now I am afraid he is gone and I fear I may succumb to the pressures and rigors of life.
I had armed myself with two degrees from one of the most prestigious institutions of India and have been working in the glory of these degrees at Mumbai for the past two years. I had a tough decision of choosing my job, and strangely I chose a lesser paying and unknown employer over a better paymaster and better-branded organization. However, looking back now I can confidently stand up and pat myself on making the choice. I had enjoyed lots of moment at my work over the period of last two years. Although I have not made millions here but have learnt a lot at this place and work was satisfying and exciting at times. But then I had not much choice but to put in my papers and I was forced to make this decision.
I guess these two incidents have shook my life greatly, it has made me realize that I am a very selfish and a weak person. I got too emotional during both these incidents because of my inherent hollowness. I made it difficult for my friend to leave instead of holding fort with him during his tough period. I behaved like an immature kid who was being too self-centric. I guess it was the attachment and the bond which was developed over the period of last few years which made me do that. Ironically both of the relations had started at the same time and are now coming towards the end simultaneously.
Looking back now what I learn from these to incidents are that all good things have to end and one should not become too attached to a particular thing to make it difficult to let go. It is this bond which gets developed makes it difficult during the separation. The weakness of a person comes out during this process and it is a test of one’s character. I failed again after my IIM-B debacle, I guess I need to become more independent and a mature person who can stand on his own feet. A Separation would not be that painful if the bond is not properly developed or the person has maturity in his character. But it is human tendency to develop relations and then get separated because of earthly reasons, I think it is cyclic in nature.
The nobel prize winning thought of Adam Smith says ‘Cyclicity’ of an kind should be broken by breaking the ‘cycle’. I am trying to figure out how should this cyclicity of separation should be broken, should it be done by just breaking the relations or by detaching emotions from relations. I think this should require an extensive research by some psychologist of the order of Adam Smith. But then I am still carrying my wounds of separations trying to figure out how to reduce the pains inflicted from it.
Aski “De Casta”
One of my best friends (arguably!! cause he still disputes it) has left today for another city to get employment there, not that it was a conscious choice made by him but then there was not much of option left for him. I had known him for the last seven years, he was my next door neighbor at my hostel. Both of us earned our first rupee together at Mumbai, had studied & graduated together, cooked some wonderful delicacies, shared a lot of ups and down in our life together. He was a rock solid support for me, I relied on him on all financial matters. He gave me advise when I was facing turbulence at my workplace. I realize now that how weak I am and now I am afraid he is gone and I fear I may succumb to the pressures and rigors of life.
I had armed myself with two degrees from one of the most prestigious institutions of India and have been working in the glory of these degrees at Mumbai for the past two years. I had a tough decision of choosing my job, and strangely I chose a lesser paying and unknown employer over a better paymaster and better-branded organization. However, looking back now I can confidently stand up and pat myself on making the choice. I had enjoyed lots of moment at my work over the period of last two years. Although I have not made millions here but have learnt a lot at this place and work was satisfying and exciting at times. But then I had not much choice but to put in my papers and I was forced to make this decision.
I guess these two incidents have shook my life greatly, it has made me realize that I am a very selfish and a weak person. I got too emotional during both these incidents because of my inherent hollowness. I made it difficult for my friend to leave instead of holding fort with him during his tough period. I behaved like an immature kid who was being too self-centric. I guess it was the attachment and the bond which was developed over the period of last few years which made me do that. Ironically both of the relations had started at the same time and are now coming towards the end simultaneously.
Looking back now what I learn from these to incidents are that all good things have to end and one should not become too attached to a particular thing to make it difficult to let go. It is this bond which gets developed makes it difficult during the separation. The weakness of a person comes out during this process and it is a test of one’s character. I failed again after my IIM-B debacle, I guess I need to become more independent and a mature person who can stand on his own feet. A Separation would not be that painful if the bond is not properly developed or the person has maturity in his character. But it is human tendency to develop relations and then get separated because of earthly reasons, I think it is cyclic in nature.
The nobel prize winning thought of Adam Smith says ‘Cyclicity’ of an kind should be broken by breaking the ‘cycle’. I am trying to figure out how should this cyclicity of separation should be broken, should it be done by just breaking the relations or by detaching emotions from relations. I think this should require an extensive research by some psychologist of the order of Adam Smith. But then I am still carrying my wounds of separations trying to figure out how to reduce the pains inflicted from it.
Aski “De Casta”
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